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Sunday, September 11, 2011

Today is September 11th

This post is atypical of what I usually write about, but seeing it's an event that cannot be ignored, I have to mention it. Today is the tenth anniversary of the attack on the World Trade Center, otherwise known as 9/11. Those of us in New York City are stuck between a rock and a hard place regarding this day. Of course we must pay our respects to those who were lost but this is something that has been in the news every single day since then. Not a day has gone by that it was not mentioned on a newscast. It's tough to listen to all the time yet for some reason I can't ever turn the channel even though I would like to stop hearing about it. And then I feel guilty for thinking that. Am I alone in feeling that?

I was off work on September 11th, 2001, sleeping late. The phone rang several times that morning and I ignored it, but after the third or forth call, I dragged myself out of bed to see who was calling me. After I listened to the first message on my answering machine, I pulled back the kitchen curtain in my Brooklyn apartment and could see that one of the towers was on fire. It was one of the things that sold me on that apartment, the view of the World Trade Center. I moved into it straight from Texas and to have an iconic view like that really meant something to me. Like everyone else in the country, I turned on the television and watched the events unfold. From my window, I watched both towers fall as I stood in my kitchen unable to wrap my brain around what was happening.

Outside, neighbors were gathering and the smell of smoke had already made it all the way across the river. Ash and scraps of office paper floated in the air littering the streets with what may have been something very important just an hour before. I picked up a piece of paper and saw it was from the desk of a man I of course didn't know, but I held on to it thinking I should try to get it back to him somehow. Eventually, it was obvious that there would be no way to retrieve all the pieces of paper that were singed and burned and now flying across Brooklyn. I threw away the one scrap I had held on to, but have since wondered if his family would have liked to have had it.

I didn't lose anyone personally in those attacks so it was easy to distance myself from it at first. But as days passed, it was clear that we were all in this together. At The Brooklyn Marriott, where I worked at the time, someone lost his mother-in-law. They never found her. The next day when I went back to work, I heard stories from my co-workers who witnessed the throngs of people escaping Manhattan by walking over the Brooklyn Bridge which the hotel was at the foot of. People poured into the hotel as a safe place after getting off the bridge and away from the unbelievable happenings in lower downtown.

Within a couple of days, people started hanging flyers up with pictures of their loved ones who they were unable to locate. Two blocks from my apartment, a house was plastered with pictures of a pretty blond woman who had lived there and was missing. Her flyer was everywhere. Walking thorough my neighborhood, more and more flyers were posted of happy smiling faces who were at at the wrong place at the wrong time. To me, that was the saddest thing; all those people looking for their husbands, wives, sons and daughters when deep down inside they had to have known they would never see them again. It was torturous for me and I didn't even know them.

Over and over again, we hear the words "never forget" in regards to 9/11. Never forget the people, right? Never forget how quickly things can change? Never forget that we are at the mercy of someone who may want to cause us harm? Yes, let's never forget those things, but there is something else I always want to remember about the weeks following 9/11. New York City became a quiet and respectful city. Sitting on the subway, you could look into the eyes of a perfect stranger and know that you shared something with them. People were kind to each other and helpful. "Please" and "thank you" were common and patience was suddenly a virtue everyone had. Cars weren't honking and people weren't yelling. Everyone was sharing the same quiet city together. We all knew that the togetherness would fade away eventually and it was so gradual that it's impossible to say when it was no longer there. But for a while, all of New York City was a family. I wish we could remember that. Out of all the horrible things that happened that day, that was the one positive that came out of it. It reminded us that we are all here together sharing this planet. And we all need to lean on each other and help one another. Give your subway seat to the old lady. Stick your tongue out at a kid in the grocery store to make him laugh. Tell your friends how much they mean to you. These are the things that happened in New York City after 9/11 that I wish people would remember.

I didn't talk to my mom that day until late in the afternoon. Friends had called to check on me as did my grandma and brothers, but not my mom. When I finally talked to her, I asked if she was worried about me. "Nah," she said. "I knew it was your day off and I couldn't imagine that you got up early to go to the World Trade Center. I figured you were safe and sound and sleeping late." Of course she was right. Who knows you better than your mom? "I knew you were okay," she said. Ten days later I got on an airplane to go see my family in Texas. I hadn't cried about 9/11 other than a few tears here and there, but when I got off the plane and saw my mom, I sobbed like a baby. I held her tight and suddenly I was so thankful to be alive. So maybe that's what we should never forget: we are alive and it's our job to appreciate every single minute of our days. That is the lesson we should learn from the 2,985 people who died ten years ago.

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And this a gentle reminder that I will be on the Dr. Phil show tomorrow, September 12.



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22 comments:

Estrellita said...

I love this post! Every single word. Great perspective.

Amanda said...

Yes yes yes. This post brought tears to my eyes. Thank you.

Practical Parsimony said...

This post belongs someplace where tens of thousands can read it. I am going to link to it so at least my fewish readers can benefit from your thoughts.

My daughter lives in Brooklyn, so all the way here in the South, I felt the horror personally, as I did not even recognize my child's voice as she screamed the words to me. She lived in Bensonhurst and could only see smoke. Her yard and clothes on the line were littered with trash and ash. I would have cried if I could have hugged her and sure she would have cried, too. And, September 11, is my birthday.

http://practical-parsimony.blogspot.com/2011/09/september-11-tribute-in-pallets.html

thormoo said...

Thank You...for this post. There isn't anything for me to add..you've covered it all here...

Babalu said...

So eloquent.

Ela said...

I'm not a New Yorker—hell, I'm not even American—but this made me tear up.

S'A said...

Bad on you--you made me cry. And I was determined not to cry today. Well written.

Anonymous said...

I cried as well. Bitchy, this is a beautiful portrait of a tragic day.

Wendy said...

You've brought a tear to my eye today with this post, Bitchy.
I've quoted you on my blog and gave a link to this post.
Such true and beautiful words.
I don't know if you "pre-write" or just sit and let it pour out, but this post is...
Wow. I don't even have a word for it.
Eloquent? Extremely thoughtful? Too truthful?

Excellent.

Yep, that's it.
Excellent.

=-)

Anonymous said...

Don't know exactly what to say but feel like I need to tell you that I was actually a little worried but trusted God that he had his arms around you and that you really were safe and sound sleeping late like I thought you were. "See" you tomorrow on Dr. Phil. Love you so much. Mom

Anonymous said...

@Mom Dang it! I was fine until I read your comment.

I'm gonna go have dinner with my Mommy now, it's her birthday.

Ester Jean said...

Aw, BW, this was a real blessing to read today. I was working on a 9/11 tribute post yesterday and I remembered what it was like in our small town in Michigan that day and the days after... it was much like you described in NYC, only ...it's a small town and generally people are more respectful and kind because everybody knows them and their families. I remembered when. in high school, we had our first bomb threat soon after Columbine, and how everyone walked around in the halls like on eggshells, don't piss anybody off, see if that lonely girl needs somebody to talk to... it was a feeling like all of the sudden, the bullies weren't bullies anymore, they were one of us just trying to make a bomb threat disappear.

Anyway, thank you for this post. It's the most beautiful one I have read today :) If you'd like to check out our tribute (our= me and my brother, who wrote his post from his prison cell), check it out here: http://judiciousjailbird.blogspot.com/2011/09/september-11-tribute.html

Mary A. said...

Perfectly stated.

((HUG)) Cyber friend!

Bagel Fairy said...

The way you addressed this topic was tasteful and well-done, like George Carlin when he did his first HBO special after the attacks. Thanks for not glossing over it or being proselytizing or self-serving.

La Machaca said...

Loved it!

Thank you.

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I couldn't say more on how you beautifully written this article as a commemoration for the 9/11 tragedy.

Practical Parsimony said...

I have read you blog every day it has been updated this week, as it posts on my blogroll. NOW, after updating me today, my blogroll shows you last posted a week ago. I wonder why.

Grandmother said...

Thank you for this lovely tribute to what's really important to do to live elegantly and gratefully.

jodi said...

9 12 11 on dr phils show why didnt u finish with that when u bring in treats for your child to keep him quiet and leave a biggggg mess for the help! you damb well better tip bigggg to compensate for it. im behind u all the way! jodi

Anonymous said...

I was not in NYC in 2001,during those dark days. Thanks for this perspective. I think I would have liked that tiny period of courtesy despite the tragic circumstances that brought them about

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